It feels good to end the work week with half the moving boxes for the office unpacked and files starting to get organized in drawers, but prepping the office, moving, and my work has taken a toll on another area of my life: cleaning. Tonight the kids both have birthday parties to attend so I should be able to straighten up a week’s worth of mess. Should be able to, but I will probably work instead.
Even though roughly 30 people are coming over on Saturday.
And my house is a mess.
Four years ago I would be spinning like a top, worried that the house wasn’t perfect. I would be upset food hasn’t even been purchased. It would be a stressful environment for all of us. But four years ago I would not have allowed a guest to bring anything and I would have an elaborate menu chosen. I do still enjoy cooking, but with my current work schedule, this party is about being with friends and not about showcasing cooking abilities.
So I am not worrying about cleaning and grocery shopping.
There are so many wonderful lessons I learned as a result of the divorce, but a valuable one was about true friendship. When my ex and I separated I allowed people in, letting them see me naked. I allowed myself to be imperfect and human and it freed me of this erroneous thought about friendship. Finally, at the age of 40, I understood.
Among other things, a real friend is someone you don’t have to clean your house for before they arrive.
Tomorrow is about spending time with friends regardless of the condition of my house, but also about baseball. It is St. Patty’s Day, but this party is a celebration of Spring Training finally arriving. It is about the greatest professional sport in existence beginning again. We will be celebrating the Nats, knowing this is our year. We have Strasburg back for a full season and an increasingly impressive bullpen. Add to it we proved last year we can hit the ball and make runs. It is our year to have it all come together and be a team that plays post season.
Note to friends attending tomorrow: Yes, we can talk about the Phillies, Angels, Dodgers, Giants, and Pirates. Briefly.
For Song of the Week, here’s something to get everyone excited about baseball: