5 Advantages of Being Single

3- No Emotional Roller Coaster- The best thing about dating vs. marriage is the ability to hop off the roller coaster whenever I like without needing aforementioned divorce attorney. I don’t have to stay in a bad relationship because staying is less complicated than getting out. If the relationship isn’t going well, it’s over without  a single check cut to an attorney.

4- Financial Freedom- Speaking of money, it’s all mine. And I don’t have to have discussions about what I do with it.

5- Better Sense of Self- The freedom, independence, and solitude I have now that I am single has led to a greater understanding of who I am and what I want in life.

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25 comments on this post.
  1. Lara:

    Yes, in a world where many women think it’s better to be with anyone that no one, we do need to remember all the perks to being single. One of many is that we are free to find out what we really want! This way we are not just stuck with anyone but can find someone we actually want to be with. Being single is a perfect opportunity to give ourselves a little self-pampering and do a little exploring to make ourselves the best girlfriends and find the best boyfriends. Here is a link from my blog about that – http://www.theloveinhereyes.com/2012/01/24/how-to-attract-the-guys-you-want/

  2. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    Thanks for sharing a link Lara!

    After all the work it takes to divorce and move forward with your life, who wants the risk of dealing with that a second time? To me that doesn’t mean you never remarry, you just are aware of your needs and focus on never settling for less than you deserve.

  3. ruta fox:

    Well put. And so right!

  4. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    Thanks Ruta!

  5. in bed with married women:

    “He doesn’t beat me.” That’s some high standards! I can see why you married him.

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  6. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    I know! I was speechless.

    As an aside, “vagina” doesn’t appear once in this post. That had to be a let-down for you.

  7. in bed with married women:

    Now, now.
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  8. David:

    Why do married people always assume that other married people are happy? Trust me darling, if it were not for having the glorious honor of having to care for my house of Autism I would be gone so fast that the vacuum effect would pull every building behind me in a huge vortex of flotsam and jetsam. I’m not scared of divorce attorneys – eat ’em for breakfast – but the thought of all of them spinning out of control through this life is unpleasant at best. Kelly, I’m really honestly delighted for you. And if you ever find that you know – I mean really know – that you are with your true soul mate then marry away. Married and oh-so-deliciously miserable about it all in Austin, Texas. xoxoxoxo
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  9. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    You always crack me up! Now I am off to learn on your blog why your monkey is too old to spank….

  10. Charlotte:

    *stands up to applaud*

    Okay, first things first: if you’re dating someone, you’re not technically single, right? Or have I missed something? Only if you’re MARRIED are you no longer single? Ugh.

    N-E-Way, I couldn’t agree more. Better happy and single than in a relationship and miserable I always say. It really ruffles my feathers when people assume you must be sad because you aren’t in a relationship. While there are partners that may bring joy to our lives, we must find it within first. LOVE this post! And boo on your gyno! With or without a cold tool wedged up my hooha, I don’t think I would have been able to restrain myself the way you did. You clearly get the Bigger Person of the Year award :)
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  11. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    I am so happy you enjoyed this post. The gyn conversation has been rattling around in my head for a few weeks. I knew it would hit my blog, just not sure in what form. Maybe if I said something in the moment it would not be eating at me this long so I am not sure it was the right decision. Also? She is a bit odd that way. I was in for an appointment yesterday and she said, “You again! I feel like at this point it would be more fun if we just went out for drinks.” She’s a bit nutty, but fun. Well, in an odd sort of way.

  12. Meredith P.:

    I don’t understand why married people think that way either, I’m married and I don’t feel sorry for single people…at times I envy them ;D.
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  13. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    And sometimes we envy you married people. Just not as often as you envy us. Kidding! (Sort-of)

  14. Lance:

    I was terrible at being single. The way I’m wired, I’m defintely a relationship person. After my divorce, everyone tried to set me up with their lone single friend they knew. This was stupid and insulting.

    Once, at cookout at a married friends house, they made sure the two circus freaks, me and the other single person, a woman a few years younger, were in the same room alone.

    we played it off with humor. we had no chemistry and no interest in each other.

    My sister in law in single. I’m her best friend. she loves me because i NEVER mention her being single.
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  15. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    Good for you Lance, remembering the single days and not falling into the well-meaning married person role.

  16. Martin Cooney:

    Being single is good and being married is good too.
    Providing you love yourself, know who you are and want it is you want in life, single is just as ‘OK’ as being in a long term relationship. It’s just a mindset thing.

    And the mindset is happiness, whatever the situation you happen to be in. I’ve got friends who are single and some are miserable and some are fantastic happy. Same goes for married friends I know.

    Other people’s opinions of your ‘state of being’ is irrelavant, as far as I’m concerned.

  17. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    You have an excellent point. I agree completely.

  18. Vanessa:

    I think the thing that made me speechless when I was first single was the time I went to a co-workers retirement party and one of my other co-workers was all “look at you, making your way here all by yourself!” Why? Does it take a husband to google a map, dress your best and drive yourself to a party?

    Personally, I am convinced that people – men or women, who learn to be content and even happy when they are on their own have a better chance of making good relationship decisions down the road.
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  19. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    I am so sorry you had that experience, but it really is telling about that person. Clearly your co-worker can’t handle being alone because he/she thought it was so brave of you to attend solo. Crazy!

    When you are comfortable being alone, you don’t make rush decisions to remarry. There’s no need to do that.

  20. Kimberly:

    I agree completely.

    I really may never marry again. Then again, I might.

    Who knows what’s in the cards for me? But I’ll tell you this…I’m happy. I have a wonderful life…and don’t often feel like I’m missing out.

    I could have stayed with my ex. Then I wouldn’t be single. But I wouldn’t be happy there either. And if I have to choose between being happy and alone and being miserable with someone else, I choose the former.
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  21. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    We are so similar in our outlook on life. I could have stayed too, but I would not be happy. It’s a great life now and it has worked out to be the best thing for all of us.

  22. Julia:

    Love this. I’ve been married for 5 years and it’s going fine. Not fairy tale ending-ish, but fine. I mostly love being married and I definitely love begin a stay at home mom to my little boy. My hubs works ALL THE TIME, so loneliness is something I experience all the time even though I am married.
    Being married doesn’t mean you won’t ever be alone or ensure happiness. I have sometimes been envious of my single friends because they can do whatever they want and answer to no one! And yay no mother in law!
    If I had never gotten married, I’m sure I would be sad I was still single. But if I ever find myself single now, I think it could be empowering.
    Great post.
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  23. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    Thank you Julia–for visiting and sharing a comment.

  24. Classic NYer:

    People who assume that single people are not happy are people who have only been talking to single people who are not happy.

    When I was single, I used to hang out with single men who were as old as you are and some older. Not one of them was happy. They were all terribly bitter people. But then again, they were all also hanging out with a twenty-something (and not succeeding at sleeping with her), which means that they probably had deeper issues than just being single.

    Also, people want to find something to be better than, and for married people, singleness is an easy target.
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  25. Naked Girl in a Dress:

    We are an easy target. What always makes me laugh is the ones who weigh in with the “poor you” comments the most are the ones absolutely miserable in their own lives. At least that is my experience.

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