Single Woman ISO Laughter

September 19, 2012

in Relationships

Couple LaughingNever one to focus on having regrets in life doesn’t mean I don’t wistfully think it would be nice for a do-over at times. In my marriage the constant theme for a do-over was simply laughter; I would have loved to have married someone who made me laugh, a deep, soul-satisfying belly laugh, daily. When the marriage was dead, and I thought of a second chance for love in my life, it’s what came to mind.

After the separation I quickly dove head first into a relationship. The guy? He made me laugh. There were a lot of other great qualities I recognized in him, but the laughter we shared daily was something I was happy to finally have in my life. He turned out to be The Antichrist, which led to me realizing laugher wasn’t enough to build the foundation of a great relationship.

And so the Naked Girl dating requirement list was born.

This list has served me well when I have followed my own guidelines on finding the perfect-for-me man. The times I have chosen to ignore this constantly-tweaked list has led to me feeling unfulfilled, and the relationships ultimately failing. The list is edited after each relationship ends, but one thing remains constant:

Laughter
I still want and need it in my life. At 43, life will have many great moments in my future, but there will be some difficult ones too; the loss of my one remaining parent, illness, and other challenges that come with aging. Life will continue to have the ups and downs of a roller coaster, but with someone who can make me laugh by my side, I just know it will be a more enjoyable ride. 

Laughter will remain an ever-present item on my relationship wish list. It’s an essential must-have for me in my life now and in the future.

What about you?

What do you want or need most?

Note: Today’s post was inspired by the Studio30 Plus writing prompt: Laughter


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Nicole September 19, 2012 at 12:28 pm

I agree 1000% on laughter. Geekface and I laugh every single day, often to the point of tears. The other HUGE thing for me is physical intimacy. And not just sex, but cuddling, holding, touching. We still hold hands when we watch tv. He almost always comes up behind me and kisses my cheek or wraps his arms around me while I’m doing dishes. And he never leaves for work without kissing me, even if it’s 4:30am and he’ll wake me for a moment. To me, all of those things say “I love you” louder than the words themselves.
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Emily Woodhouse September 19, 2012 at 1:11 pm

How sweet!
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 20, 2012 at 7:31 am

Thank you, Emily!

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Naked Girl in a Dress September 20, 2012 at 7:30 am

I love when you share stories from your relationship; you have a great one, and it makes me happy to read.

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Marie Nicole September 19, 2012 at 2:18 pm

Laughter is important to me too. I want somebody who reminds me I matter and I count. My self-esteem has a weird freakish fragility, and often I need reminders of my worth. My partner is that reminder… The problem with that is how I give him too much power to easily tear it apart as well. I’m not perfect, neither is my relationship – but I know I’d be lost without him.
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 20, 2012 at 7:33 am

When you love and admire someone in your life, their opinion does tend to matter a great deal. This can lead to getting hurt when the comments or opinions of us aren’t about how wonderful we are, but rather focusing on a negative aspect of ourselves. I have fallen into this as well and it hurts. It’s good he is also someone who builds you up, too. That’s a really good thing. Oh, and no relationship is perfect, but you knew that. :)

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Hey MOnkey Butt September 19, 2012 at 2:29 pm

I have to agree, laughter is so important!
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 20, 2012 at 7:34 am

Thanks for visiting and commenting, Monkey Butt!

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Tracy @ Momaical September 19, 2012 at 5:03 pm

Laughter is the glue that has held my marriage together. No one knows how to make me laugh quite like my husband. Which is good, because no one knows how to piss me off as well as my husband. Thankfully – the laughter outweighs the ire!
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 20, 2012 at 7:35 am

When you are passionate and really connected with someone, it does typically go both ways. I am happy for you the laughter wins out!

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Jenn @therebelchick September 20, 2012 at 9:29 pm

Laughter is also incredibly important to me, but above all? Honesty. I can’t live without it.
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frelle September 21, 2012 at 6:49 pm

This was a great response! I definitely want someone who will fill my life with laughter. Very high on my dating requirements list :)
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 25, 2012 at 10:39 am

Laughter is so important. Too much heavy stuff will come our way in life; I need someone who has the ability to lift me up in the difficult times as well as make the good feel that much sweeter.

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Brook September 12, 2013 at 12:31 pm

I still don’t believe that you’re in your forties…
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Naked Girl in a Dress September 12, 2013 at 1:22 pm

You are so funny! I feel in my 50′s some days! :)

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