Dancing in the Rain

December 13, 2010

in Life Lessons


Last week a reader commented on a post I wrote five months ago. It was a piece about celebrating the progress I had made in the divorce process. The reader left a supportive comment, letting me know I would get through this time in my life. She also said:

“…coping and surviving a divorce is an accomplishment.”

This reader’s comment to an older post was the impetus for me to look back and reflect on my progress, both in the divorce and in my life. So much has changed and all for the better.

I have completed divorce negotiations and have an agreement; my children are thriving with two parents who divorced amicably; I have the love and support of a really great group of friends; I am in a better financial position; photography school is going well; my writing is gaining more recognition; and I am in negotiations for a possible business partnership in the new year.

With 2010 coming to a close in a few weeks, I am happy with where my life is right now. There have been some high and low points, but that is part of life.

“Life isn’t about how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain” — Unknown

I am hoping for fewer storms in 2012, but know that I have learned to dance in the rain. And I am better for it.

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Elizabeth Flora Ross December 13, 2010 at 9:26 am

That is awesome, and I believe it 100%. I think it is not what happens to you in life, but how you choose to respond that matters. Not only has having a great attitude helped you personally get through this difficult time, you are modeling some great lessons for your children. Way to go!

Naked Girl in a Dress December 13, 2010 at 1:50 pm

Thanks Elizabeth. This has been difficult and I have certainly had my low points (and shared on the blog), but I have tried to always look for the positive to come from the most challenging experiences. It does help get through those tough times.

Justin December 13, 2010 at 11:45 am

Divorce just sucks all the way around. I am glad to hear that you getting through it ok.
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Naked Girl in a Dress December 13, 2010 at 1:51 pm

I am getting through this. Actually, I feel like I am through this and just looking forward now. It is a good feeling.

Nancy December 13, 2010 at 1:22 pm

I think that you should be proud of where you are today!
I am a new follower I hope you will follow me back.

Naked Girl in a Dress December 13, 2010 at 1:52 pm

Nancy, Thanks for becoming a new follower of my blog. Yes, I will stop by to learn about your blog as well.

How Does She Do It Mom December 13, 2010 at 8:46 pm

I haven’t checked in on our blog in a while (my bad…because I actually really love your blog) and I have to say how heartened I am to see where you are now from when I first started reading months ago.

I 100% agree that divorce is an accomplishment…you seem to have come out on top…good for you!! Be proud! :)
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Naked Girl in a Dress December 13, 2010 at 11:14 pm

I can’t even begin to express how happy I was to enter the holiday season with the divorce issues behind me. It feels good to move towards building a future instead of dismantling a past.

debbie December 14, 2010 at 8:50 am

It’s very worthwhile to look back and see how well we have done, isn’t it?
Stopped by from SITS to say hi.
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Naked Girl in a Dress December 14, 2010 at 9:12 am

It was great to take a moment to really think about what life was like at the beginning of the year and where I am now. I am even more excited for what is in store for me in 2012.

Barb December 14, 2010 at 11:31 am

What a great place to be. Im in the works of writing a post about no longer wanting to be in “post-divorce” status. Instead, I am looking forward to “great things that lie ahead” status!

Naked Girl in a Dress December 14, 2010 at 12:30 pm

Barb~ We are both in the same place–looking forward and excited about the adventures that await us. It is good to move forward and away from the daunting divorce process, isn’t it?

Jenni Chiu December 14, 2010 at 7:34 pm

Here’s to many less storms in 2011.
But if they should arise… at least you know you’ve got some good galoshes for dancin’.
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Naked Girl in a Dress December 14, 2010 at 7:58 pm

Thank you Jenni!

Alice Koko May 15, 2013 at 5:55 pm

Thumbs UP for you and me and others who are staying strong during divorce.
I am almost there, still tricky negotiations and unexpected twists appear BUT technically June19 is the official number for nightmare to be over.
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Naked Girl in a Dress May 22, 2013 at 11:03 am

I hope you can put the divorce behind you soon! Hopefully no delays and the 19th will finalize it for you.

Alice Koko May 22, 2013 at 11:16 am

For me its just a date, for others OFFICIAL “I am a free woman” thing. I just love how people look at you when you are in transition,looking behind your shoulder expecting me to change my mind.
Same time a year has been a good recovery and self-finding experience. Yes there are moments when I shed a tear but its past and that`s where its staying!
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