In the last two weeks I have been able to arrange special “mom dates” with each child. Recently Princess Daisy and I went out to lunch and to shop for spring clothes. This weekend Monkey and I are planning to build Legos, work on an art project, and have dinner out.
Having special one-on-one time with each of my children is important to me. I experience them differently without their sibling present. Each will open up more freely; is more focused on our conversations; and feels more special having alone time with me.
When I first separated I would pull them individually from school one day every other month during lunch and recess to have a special lunch out with me. This was an important time for us to connect and discuss feelings about the change in our family. Now I take whatever opportunity I have to spend alone time with each of them. Sometimes I am able to accomplish this when one child is attending a birthday party or sleep-over. But I also coordinate with my ex so that we each have one child, which allows the kids individual attention from their dad as well.
Our special “mom dates” don’t happen as often as I would like, but I am doing my best to take advantage of the times we do have.
Do you coordinate individual time with each child?
If so, what has been successful for you?
Since this is Monkey’s special weekend, I let him choose the Song of the Week. I guess, with his song choice, that he is ready to party with Mom. Here is Taio Cruz with Dynamite: