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Writing Until the World Can Fall Together Again
Many years ago when I hit PUBLISH here for the first time, I was so unsure of my future--mourning over the loss of my marriage, and trying to
A Global Imperative: Women Supporting Women
"I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side." ~Maya Angelou After the presidential election,
2015: The Year of the Girlfriend
As a mostly failing recovering Type-A personality, making long lists of resolutions at the start of a new year isn't something I espouse to any longer. Recently finding
Christmas Cards: A Six-Year Hiatus
The last time I sent a Christmas card was 2007, which was the last year my ex and I were together. Moving out in December of 2008, there
My Christmas Wish
Visiting the blog of one of my favorite writers this morning, I struggled to comment on her post. I could close the tab and exit without leaving a trace of
Life is Too Short To…
We often hear of people hitting 50 and having a midlife crisis. The reality regarding midlife is that we likely hit that point in our 40's based upon life expectancy.
It’s Just Right
Sometimes people come into our lives who say they love us, and they genuinely mean it. And while we appreciate the sentiment, they love us in a way we
On Being a Grown-Up
I always get the thoughtful--sometimes challenging--questions from my kids while driving. Typically it's when we have a long drive or a lot of traffic, which means I can't
Finding Calm in the Crazy
My life has been crazy this year. I planned a wedding, got married, launched a new blogazine, and merged two houses into one a couple of weeks before
On Never Getting Old
It is not length of life, but depth of life. - Ralph Waldo Emerson ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am never going to get old. It's not that I fear aging,
Love and Money
Early in dating, I told Sean a lot of things that would never happen in our relationship. We wouldn't date seriously, exclusively, or marry. Ever, on the last one.
Match Helps Single Parents Find Love
Online dating sites were helpful for me as a single mom; I was able to screen significantly before committing to meet someone (time saver!) and, as unromantic as
Making Time to Learn and Bond
Fully embracing life and being happy has been a goal that has remained a constant in my life since the split from my ex. In fact, shortly after
Holiday Shopping Goal: Find & Save
Sean and I have a busy life with work, five kids between us, a new home to decorate, and a wedding to plan. So last weekend when Sean
What’s Under Your Rug?
All of us have something under our rug. It might be as small as a corn kernel or as big as a corpse, but I am confident we
A Special Seat in Hell
"Your dad is a good person, but we aren't good together." This is the greatest level of detail my children received from me regarding their dad, our problems,
A Taste of the Empty Nest Life
Eight years. That's all that separates this busy mom of two (soon to be five) kids from the group known as empty nesters. While my days are normally
TeeSpring: A Solution to School and Sport Fundraisers
For a majority of parents, this is the month kids go back to school. With that comes PTA meetings, school fundraisers, and team sports. There are countless ways
What is Love, Revisited
What is love? It seems like an easy question to be asked, and one that anyone could answer. And yet, so many people are searching for the answer to
A Summer Essential: Creating a Summer Reading List
I read year round, but there's an undeniable itch to dive into a pile of books at the start of summer. Why I want to read more in
How to Stop Complaining
“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb On the last two miles of my typical run
G is for Great
Driving home recently, Monkey started telling me what a great letter "G" was in the alphabet. It seemed like an unusual start to a conversation, so I asked
A Failed Relationship: Who is to Blame?
"Why did your marriage end?" That is the best first-date question to ask. What he says next says more about him than the end of the marriage or
Verseo eGlide and Cellulite Massager Giveaway
If you are getting ready for summer, it's your lucky day. Why, you might ask? By visiting my site, you have stumbled upon an opportunity to win a
The Internet Thinks I am a Bad Mom
Yesterday was Mother's Day. It was a special day for me, filled with Mother's Day well wishes from my children, fiancé, ex-husband, mother, other family members and friends.
Unleash Your Social Verve
Have you heard of Sverve yet? It's a place for female social media enthusiasts with blogs to come together to share tips and articles they love, help each
Vimbly for Creative Date and Activity Planning
At the end of April I wrote a post with an idea of how to keep a relationship fresh. It turned out to be a popular topic of interest
A Fresh Start
Standing in the newly-painted master bedroom, the possibilities feel endless. All the nail holes were covered when the artwork was removed. Electrical plates and light switch covers were
Groovebook: FREE Photos from Your Phone
It's a big moment: a first step for a baby, a child catching a pop fly to end the game, sharing a romantic dinner with the special person
Dropkick Murphys: Making a Difference for Boston Bombing Victims
Huffington Post is calling the Boston area a war zone, more are dead, and terror is now taking hold of the residents in Watertown. Before learning about what transpired
On Turning Three
Curled up with a hot cup of coffee, listening to the rain pattering outside on this spring morning, I am thinking about the past three years of my
The Boston Tragedy: Seeing the Light
Yesterday our eyes saw too much blood, smoke, and carnage than we should have on a beautiful spring day. And our hearts felt heavier than any of us
Overcoming Fear with Courage
As adults, we aren't fearful of monsters under our bed anymore. Instead it might be how to support a family when faced with unemployment, being alone after divorcing,
One Short of the Brady Bunch
We are one short of The Brady Bunch. It's something I hear from friends about us blending our family. The comparison doesn't bother me. While it was a
5 Things Children Teach Us
I love children. As I like to say, "Mine, and even other people's kids." Children know how to have fun, have the best perspectives on life, and are
Healthy Boundaries: Drawing a Line in the Sand
"Work" tends to have a negative connotation when used in context with relationships, but it is the best way to describe a necessary component to be successful. Being
Where I am Going: Forward Thinking for a More Balanced Life
This week I wrote about a recent struggle with balance. The work side of life had been tipping the scale a bit more than I like and, as
Finding Work, Family, and Life Balance
In the first ten weeks of this year, I have worked hard to acquire new clients, successfully complete work for clients, write here, work towards greater visibility and
Phillip Phillips: Successful Being Himself
I almost exclusively listen to Pandora radio and have little knowledge of pop culture, which means I am not the most hip mom with new singers or top
I Love You, And…
But seems like a benign enough word. It's not though. At least not in every circumstance. One that is a particular annoyance for me is: I am sorry,
Happiness and Hard Work
"Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best." ~Theodore
Shhh….I am Not Supposed to Be Here
If you read my post yesterday, you know I am supposed to be unplugged until late afternoon today. You are probably judging me, thinking that I am feigning
Love Means Learning How to Unplug
Our weekends are often filled with tasks we need to accomplish around the house, activities planned with the kids, menu planning and grocery shopping for the next week,
A Positive Reflection
This week I wrote a post after re-writing the About page on my site. While I discovered an irrelevancy now to those words describing me from three years
A New Chapter in Life
There are many benefits to writing on a blog. One is the opportunity to clearly see the past as it was in the moment--not a revisionist's version of
Healthy Cooking with Gluten-Free Pizza Crusts
I get offers for sponsored posts regularly, but none excite me more than an opportunity to try and write about a gluten-free product. Any chance I have to
What is Normal
Yesterday I posted about the unusual living arrangements Sean and I have chosen for our family. I stated I recognized it's not normal, but that it works for
Relationship Status: It’s Complicated
Before Sean and I met he had discovered a new community ten minutes from work and the same distance from his two youngest kids. The spacious, city-style brownstones
Today is Downton Abbey Day (Also Known as Sunday)
In the last week I have revealed my Downton Abbey and Dowager Countess of Grantham obsessions. So, of course, today isn't Sunday; it's Downton Abbey Day. I know
Rocking Out to Downton Abbey
It's a cold, grey, rainy day in the D.C. area today. This means that even though it's National Margarita Day, I will not be going to my favorite
Recently Named One of Top Ten Blogs in the World
One of the best feelings is when someone publicly recognizes my greatness. It's even better when I am touted as being fabulous and on a short list with writers
Singles in America
I opine on the subject of being single and online dating based upon my personal experience and that of friends. The stories are fun (and sometimes sad) antidotes
Show Me Heart
After dinner out with Sean last night, we went to see one of our favorite bands, Mumford and Sons, in concert. As the opening act was ending, and
Valentine’s Day Survival Tips for Men
Tomorrow is the big day. It's the annual make-or-break day for men; you will be back on the market for a girlfriend after screwing up the most important
Scheduling Time for Having Fun
Fun. That's the new project in my OmniFocus task management system. It might seem sad that I had to add a project to have fun, but it's a
What Makes You Happy Today?
Five days. That is what is in the way of me seeing Mumford and Sons in concert. A special night early in dating Sean, I shared the band
It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect
"Do what you can, where you are, with what you have." ~ Theodore Roosevelt This quote now hangs on the wall over my two work laptops. It's a
Together as a Family
Last night there was a family spat that resulted in tears for three of us. The details of what happened will remain private since it involves the kids,
How to Restore Trust in a Relationship
Sean broke our wedding vows recently. The fact we aren't married yet is just a technical detail. What is important is the commitment he made, to uphold five
Divorce Advice: Learn to Make Lemonade
Sometimes life sucks. There's no more eloquent way to put it. Life experiences can be frustrating, heartbreaking, painful, depressing, and more. Regardless the extent of the challenge, age
How to Maintain a Successful Relationship in a Hectic Life
Work, kids, household chores and projects, meal planning and prep, kids' activities, exercise, and more is squeezed into each week. Somehow, through it all, we also need to
What Would You Do with Two Hours to Be Completely Self-Indulgent?
Work, after school activities, dinner prep, house cleaning, homework assistance, errand running, bill paying, and peacekeeping are some of the activities responsible adults with children attend to on
Relationship Success: Enjoying the String of Tiny Moments
When I was in the throes of figuring out the online dating scene several years ago, I remember speaking to a neighbor who was also trying to navigate
What I Want for My Children
When my children grow up, I want them to be _____________________. Reading that sentence, many will fill in the blank with a doctor, lawyer, teacher, my successor in
Connecting and Blending a Family at Dinner
Sitting in American Girl Cafe waiting for our server to greet us, Princess Daisy spotted a bright pink box in the middle of the table. In it were
New Family Experiences
As this publishes, Sean and I are en route to New York City with our four youngest kids. Two of the four have never been to the city,
Twenty Years from Now
"Can you see yourself with him 20 years from now?" That's what a friend asked me after I announced becoming engaged to Sean. Without hesitation, I told her
45 Life Lessons, Written by a 90 Year Old
As we travel through life, are we learning any lessons along the way? ~~~~~~~~~~ The following list was compiled, not by a 90-year-old as the title suggests, but
A New Year. A New Site.
Last week when I announced completion of a new site on Facebook, I stated I felt a bit like the shoemaker's daughter. Being so busy working on client
The Power of Words
Words. Used wisely, they spark many emotions in a person, including make someone smile, laugh, feel loved, create a sense of safety, or build esteem. Used irresponsibly, words
Creating Balance with New Year’s Resolutions
Last year I wrote an anti-New Year's resolutions post. It was about picking fun goals to focus on, and enjoying the year. The idea was to not create
10 Most Popular Posts in 2012
Yesterday I shared posts that meant the most to me in 2012, the ones that best defined my year. As promised, today I am sharing the top ten
2012: In My Own Words
Tomorrow I will be sharing the top ten posts I published in 2012. It's based upon what readers liked the most of my writing effort in 2012. Today,
Give Yourself the Gift of Happiness with Gaiam TV
"The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself." ~Ben Franklin This quote was the opening for a documentary
Restoring Our Faith
When a tragedy strikes, we, as a nation, grieve with the victims and their families. We feel touched by the heartbreaking accounts when the tragedy is a natural
20 Traits Happy People Have in Common
One of the three tenets of Naked Girl in a Dress is happiness, which is why it is written about here often. I have touched upon topics of
Custom Cookie Mix for the Gift-Giving Season
The holiday season is a wonderful time of year; decorating the house, gathering with special friends and family, making wonderful holiday-centric meals, attending fun parties, and baking are
Saying Yes
"I am never getting married again." "There's probably only a 10% chance we will still be together at Thanksgiving." "You have no business remarrying either, Sean." "Let's promise
He’s Worth It
Readers have been on a roller coaster with me, sharing my excitement over a new relationship, and my tears at it's conclusion. I write from my heart, sharing
Hair Products for the Holidays
With company parties, family get-togethers, neighborhood gatherings, and big holiday soirees, this is the time of year we all have more opportunities to dress up and look our
Thanks Santa
It's official. With only 22 days until Santa arrives, we are in full swing for the Christmas season. If you are like my family, the count for this
The Process for Finding Mr. Perfect for Me
Perfection. I have written my thoughts about this being a dirty word for me. This perfection-seeking tendency is something I will wrestle with quietly my whole life. When I
Naked Girl Says, “Size Matters.”
Size matters. That's what a lot of people say. I don't think it matters as much as when a guy lies about size though. That's why I pay attention
Happy Cyber Monday
After writing a somewhat anti-Black Friday and anti-consumerism post last week, publishing this piece today might seem contradictory. It's not. We will all be shopping for our kids
Love, Hope, and Faith
Consumer-focused Black Friday is looming, and threatening to take the spotlight off Thanksgiving. Many retailers are opening on the holiday this year, which to me is sad. I
Avoiding Mental Purgatory
The gray area. My own version of a mental Purgatory. Having uncertainty leaves me spinning, looking incessantly for the answer so that I can move myself safely into
A Week of Giving Thanks
This week of Thanksgiving I will be doing something more productive than stressing about seating for dinner, figuring out if I have enough plates to feed 40+ people
Living a Kid-Free Weekend
Six weeks. That's how long it has been since Sean and I had a kid-free weekend. I think we have forgotten what to do with all the time
It’s Not Goodbye…
Some people enter our lives at precisely the right moment to make a significant impact. Tracey Gaughran-Perez is one of those people for me; she has been an
To President Obama on State Secession: Learn from a Seasoned Veteran
When most of us thought we would be mindlessly viewing images of cats on Facebook following the election, instead we are reading endless posts on state secession. At
Happy Fake Thanksgiving
Sean and I do not have our children for Thanksgiving this year. Since it is Sean's favorite holiday, we decided to have a Thanksgiving dinner early with our
Focus on the Good
After writing a non-resolution post at the beginning of the year, I followed it up a few days later with a three-word commitment. The exercise in choosing three
Seeing the World with Grateful Eyes
"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see." ~Henry David Thoreau Right now many people on Facebook are posting daily what they are grateful
Dare to Dream Big
As we were driving recently, my son shared with me his life plan (his words). Some of his dreams I have heard before, but a few new ones
A Compelling (?) Argument to Elect Romney
I have successfully avoided political arguments on Facebook and among friends. That is something to be proud of this election year as emotions are at an all-time high.
What Would You Do with an Extra Hour in Your Day?
Fall back. Two of the best words this time of year. I become gleeful over the idea of having an extra hour. I would prefer sixty minutes each
Pause. Breathe. Start Anew.
Back-to-school rush. Three fall sports activities. Watching professional baseball. Halloween. The first half of fall has been busy for me, but there is a lull. Kid and professional
Be the Change
There is an unprecedented amount of passion surrounding the presidential election this year. Spend five minutes on Facebook for confirmation. There's an endless stream of politically-oriented postings, and
NaBloPoMo is Crazy Talk
I am crazy. ALL CAP, italic, and bold kind of CRAZY. It would be crazy to commit to National Blog Post Month (NaBloPoMo), writing a blog post each
A Soon-to-Be-Happy Halloween
I have been a Halloween crank with my kids. The decorations didn't go up until yesterday. Frankenstorm was here to destroy the outside decorations, but I can't use
Frankenstorm Update: Naked Girl Opines on Hurricane Compatibility
Hurricane Sandy, also known affectionately as Frankenstorm, is coming. What it meant for our area was mass panic over the weekend. Purchasing water, food, and any other item deemed
Defining Real Beauty
Today's guest writer, Patricia Iles, is one of the newest members of Studio30 Plus. After reading a piece she submitted to the S30P Community Blog, and reading her
What is Love?
Beginning to fade from the extended exposure to sunlight was a child's artwork project on my friend's refrigerator. Her daughter was asked to fill in the blank inside
Life Lessons and Music from Katy Perry
When my friend Brahm from Alfred Lives Here asked me to guest write for his blog while he is on a fabulous two-week cruise, I was happy to
Living with No Regrets
"What are your dreams?" Someone asked me that soon after I separated from my ex. The question stumped me. I didn't have an answer, and I was embarrassed
Learning How to Date as a Single Mom
Today's guest is Mikki Morrissette, moderator of Choice Moms website. She is an amazing example of someone who can excel at motherhood and career, while also providing a
Avoid Psychos When Dating: Have a Second Mobile Number
One glass of wine and 45 minutes. That's the extent of the investment in a date last summer. But if I could have politely extricated myself within 15
Finding Perspective
Last night there was a flurry of activity in my home. I was packing to teach a night course, watching the Nationals game, and making sure everything was
The Ugly Truth about Mr. Perfect
Mr. Perfect doesn't exist. Seriously, he doesn't. Get over it now if you want to find your own version of happily ever after. You need to realize scenarios
A Single Mom, Not a Superhero
After four years as a single mom, I still have not realized the impossibility of also being a superhero. Instead of accepting this reality, my inner voice regularly
Love in a Long Distance Relationship
Sean Jeffries is a single dad, self-proclaimed computer geek, and writer. He is fairly new to blogging, but don't take that as a novice writer; he is incredibly
Would You Leave Your Kids Alone with the Person You are Dating?
Admittedly, I don't have all the answers to life, love, and parenting; I simply opine on the topics based upon my personal experiences and observations. Quite often when
When is the Right Time to Introduce Kids to a New Partner?
Never. That used to be my answer. I didn't see a reason to unnecessarily bring my kids into a relationship that probably would not last. When I fell in
I Will Wait
"Do you expect to find someone who will be in precisely the same place emotionally as you throughout the relationship?" Pushing him away, trying to slow him down
Naked Girl in the Jungle
Naked Girl in a Dress is about rediscovering life and love at any age. My little home on the internet focuses on my aim to live free, happy,
Relationships with Expiration Dates
My romantic relationships have always come with expiration dates. I can't always clearly read the date or know the circumstances, but each will perish. This isn't the healthiest way
Man, I Feel Like a Woman
Today's guest writer's opening is a how-we-met story. It's accurate, but I am going to add a little detail. CV from Cubicle Views joined Studio30 Plus. He was excited
Single Woman ISO Laughter
Never one to focus on having regrets in life doesn't mean I don't wistfully think it would be nice for a do-over at times. In my marriage the
How Important is the First Kiss?
In the time I have been single, I have learned a few important things from dating: The first kiss isn't an indicator of chemistry. A toe-curling first kiss
Lucky Me
The last four years of my life have been a series of ups and downs: divorce, heartbreak, financial uncertainty, love, financial certainty, and more. I have made sure
Maneuvering the Life in Between
Most of us don't experience significantly sorrowful or joyful days daily. We mostly live the life that is in between. It's best we live in this space because
The Definition of Tenacious
Tenacious. That's one adjective a man used to describe himself to me on a first date a month ago. I thought I understood the definition of tenacious before
Just Enjoying the Swim. And Bike. And Run.
Standing at the edge of the lake early Sunday morning before starting the swim for Iron Girl Rocky Gap triathlon, many emotions were brewing. I thought about what
10 Essential Things You Missed This Summer
It's understandable for readers to take vacations, spend time at the pool, and drink a lot of fruity drinks with umbrellas throughout the summer. Maybe some finally decided
Single Me vs. Married Me
Married Me would rise most weekday mornings at 5:30 to run at least six miles. One weekend morning each week she would typically run 10. Her cycling would
Finding that ‘Alone’ Time
There are a lot of ways I discover a blogger to read and follow. It could be through a post link being tweeted, a Facebook post, or from
Why I’m Going Commando
Everyone understands divorce is a life-changing event. Some of us also believe there is an awakening that occurs, bringing with it an opportunity for endless possibilities. Jeanie Rule of
On How I Abuse My Child
This morning I woke with a sense of both dread and excitement. Excitement for the upcoming date with a great guy this evening. A guy who is bright,
5 Tips for a Happy Marriage
Are there any blogs you visit and consistently find yourself laughing? Hollow Tree Ventures is a perfect example of a site where you will enjoy the writing and
Get Ready for Fall with Shoe Cushions
It's still summer. If you are like me, that means you are barefoot as often as possible. And, when wearing shoes, they are flip flops or comfortable sandals.
Proceeding with Caution for the First Time
Arriving a few minutes early, I quickly scanned the men seated at the bar, trying to determine if one of them was waiting for me. Ah, that one
The Advantages of Serial Dating
I have a confession to make: I am a serial monogamist at heart. If I like a guy after a couple of dates, it seems logical to me
My Timeline in Review
Two years ago I was in the exact location I am now: a small lakeside community in the mountains with the same friend and our children. This vacation, like
Becoming a Single Mom Saved Me
The smart, sassy, tell-it-like-it-is Melysa Schmitt is guest writer today. She writes about her single mom experiences and dating adventures on her site Sex, Lies, and Bacon. I
The Unexpected Gift of Rain
Early Sunday morning I awoke to cool temperatures, a constant breeze, and rain. I had slept with the windows and bedroom deck door open, so it was chilly,
Learning to See the Exit Sign
Do you see the sign to the left? I am told by a reliable source it is an exit sign. I can't see it because I have a
I Don’t Care. I Love it.
Today's guest, Nancy Davis Kho, is unapologetic about her obsession with music and concerts as an adult. Midlife Mixtape is where she shares it all: music, motherhood, modern
Life in a Writing Community
Over a year ago I wrote a post called "Why I Blog." The impetus for the piece was a rude comment left by a reader. The hateful words
The Perfect Place to Hide Until the End of Summer Olympics 2012
Last Friday I wrote a scathing piece about the need to boycott the olympics this year. It generated a lot of dialog with 30 comments so far. In
A Complaint of Olympic Proportions
Something happens every four years that gets my panties in a knot. It's not leap year or the U.S. presidential election. For a busy single mom, gaining 24
Living a Miraculous Life
Today's guest writer is Leah Carey of The Miracle Journal. She is someone who, no matter how insignificant the contact (e.g., comment of a Facebook post), she makes
A Single Mom Dream: Resting and Doing Nothing
Last summer when writing my annual Family Summer Activity List post, I stated I knew it would be a challenging summer to balance parenting, work, and school. I
Home Maintenance and the Thorny Path to Usefulness
Today's guest writer is Jonah Gibson of Days of Living Aimlessly. He is retired, living life now as an artist and home repairman, as you will read below.
Solid Relationship Advice: One Failure at a Time
"What are your qualifications to be writing about relationships?" This question was posed to me recently, which made me laugh. He was being serious and clearly critical of
Defining My Own ‘Happily Ever After’
Last week I wrote a piece focusing on storybooks and relationships, complaining essential lessons about love are not in these books. I then discovered a storybook last weekend
Still Believing in ‘Happily Ever After’
This week you would think Disney was sponsoring posts at Naked Girl in a Dress. David from The Blue Orchid of Texas was my guest and wrote "Interviewing
What Storybooks Won’t Teach You
Last week I did a face plant into a box of tissues. When I could cry no more, I slowly removed my head from the sodden box, carefully
Interviewing Prince Charming
Today's guest is a special friend: David from The Blue Orchid of Texas. We visit each other's blogs and enjoy interacting on Studio30 Plus. David always leaves wonderfully
A Spirit Soaring in the Sun
As I sit to write this it is almost noon. I have not felt nauseous and there have been no tears so far today. I am also breathing
Exorcising the Elephant
I have been quiet on my blog lately, but feel it's time to write again. There are many things I would like to write about, but I have
The Definition of Success
When you hear someone mention a "successful person," is the assumption this person has a healthy work-life balance or is happy? Of course not. The implication is financial
Memory is the Diary We All Carry About with Us
Today's guest writer is Nicole DeFelice. She is a talented writer and professional editor. Her articles about editing in the Studio30 Plus Community Blog are always popular. Nicole's
What Would Bryce Harper’s Mom Do?
Life can be simultaneously joyous and challenging. It is something I recognize daily with our family life right now. It is probably inaccurate calling what we are living
Love and Hate
Someone I love is being bullied by a vapid man who perceives her to be an easy target for abuse. Men like him, who prey on women, are weak,
Progress from Perfectionism
The drive to be perfect- it's an unwelcome quality still hanging on from my marriage. I battle this urge to aim for perfection in an attempt to extinguish
Blogging Was My Provenance
Nothing pleases me more than hosting someone who has recently come out as a blogger. Last month I hosted Marie Nicole, who used to blog under the pen
How to Stand Out and Be Unique in the World of Dating
Last week I was asked to be one of a few co-hosts for a Twitter relationship chat, which led at the conclusion of the chat to inviting participants
30 Days to a Happier Life
This week's third installment in the Contemplation & Growth Series is on Happiness. Of the six topics being covered, this is the one I write about most often
On Claims and Karma
Guest writers for Naked Girl in a Dress are planned at least a month in advance, but the writing schedule for my own posts is much closer to
How to Eliminate Stress by Focusing on Happiness
Stress and happiness. They don't belong together. Actually, it's incredibly difficult, other than forming a sentence with them, to put them together. Or so I have discovered. The
Starting Saturday with Paramore
This week was the start of a series based upon recent reflection, which I hope will lead to greater understanding and personal growth. Over the next few weeks
Is Commitment Phobia a Fear of Failure?
I dodged two bullets in the last four years. I avoided a vitriolic, expensive divorce and narrowly escaped marrying someone who can only be described as the Antichrist.
Zombies Are the New Black
Monday I started a several week series. I will be writing about my reflections on a variety of more serious topics. While I am working on these posts,
Is Being Too Independent a Bad Thing?
Fiercely independent. That is how Ben from Dad of the Decade described me in the intro to his guest post here in April. When I read
A Series of Contemplation and Growth
With the one-year anniversary of my divorce passing last week, I have thought about how good life has been these first 12 months of singledom. I could choose
A Moment of Gratitude and Reflection
After a four-day holiday weekend that was at a relaxed pace, I spent Tuesday and Wednesday sick. I did my best to work on key projects, but found
Marie Nicole is Naked and Loving It
The fascinating Marie Nicole from My Cyber House Rules is guest writer today. Fascinating because she traveled ten months a year as a race car mechanic. Marie then
Casting Troubles Into the Sky
The Boyfriend is struggling with something right now. The disappointment and sadness was apparent throughout our call last night. It was so difficult to be on the phone
Naked Boy in a Suit
Today's guest writer is Brahm from alfred lives here. Full disclosure: I fell in love with Alfred, the adorable dog-child of Brahm, first. It was inevitable that I
Teaching Kids Not to Hate
While other young kids were having Pat the Bunny read to them by their mothers, I was teaching my kids bad words. I felt it was important to learn them,
A Pain-Free Anti-Aging Solution
Aging isn't an all-consuming concern of mine, but I can't say that looking younger isn't important to me. It would be hypocritical to do so while admitting I
Google + Doodle = Distraction (and awesomeness)
I have always thought the coolest job in the world is a position as a Google doodler. What's that? You don't know what a doodler is? I will
Love Shining Brightly
Considering two weeks before I met The Boyfriend I declared I was never dating again, this relationship was unexpected. It's not just about the surprise of finding myself
Who are All These People and Why are They Here?
I asked Suniverse from The Suniverse to be a guest here because she is funny. And outrageous. Oh, and I like her a lot. Those are my reasons.
Polka Dot Green Dress
Charlotte from My Pixie Blog is the guest writer today. She is a fun, talented, upbeat person who always seems to brighten my day. I know Charlotte through
Best Performance of “Call Me Maybe”
The internet is where I spend most of my work day. Without fail I stumble upon something daily that makes me laugh. It could be an image, funny
Seeing a Ray of Sunshine
Just a few weeks shy of the one year anniversary of my divorce, I have been thinking of the good fortune that has come my way after a
I Ain’t Afraid of No Teenagers
My guest today is Katie Sluiter from Sluiter Nation. It's probably best to start by saying Katie is awesome and inspiring. She is a great writer, positive person,
Love, Hate, and Marriage Equality
Each time I publish a post in the category While Perched Upon My Soapbox I find myself writing a prelude to the piece. It usually starts
My Breasts are My Greatest Asset
Yesterday while running along the National Mall I saw something unusual; there was a sea of pink everywhere. A large pink archway, signs, shirts, flowers, and more. I
Ashton Kutcher and PopChips (Also Known as the Post Where I Lose All My Readers)
I find it ironic in a week that I am working on a piece for my blog on hate (in any form), that I find myself as one
A Naked Girl Exclusive (sort-of): Ashton Kutcher on a Dating Site
There are so many dating sites out there, but are any really cool, hip, and exciting? I can tell you: zero. How great would it be if there
What’s Your Excuse?
My ex competed for a slot on the U.S. Short Course Duathlon team last weekend. He has made the team the last several years and enjoys traveling to
Singles or Doubles-Who’s up for a Game of Tennis?
Scheduling guest writers each month is one of my favorite blogging activities. What I enjoy most is mixing it up--providing men, women, single, married, and best of all,
5 Advantages of Being Single
Lying naked on the examination table with a paper gown covering very little, I waited. After a few minutes of staring at a wildlife picture taped to the
5 Tips for Letting Go of Anger
As I was upstairs getting ready to leave for baseball practice yesterday, I heard a commotion on the first floor. There was yelling, door slamming, and sobbing. As
Best Parts and Worst Parts
My guest today is Heidi Cave of Fancy Feet. She writes about her life today as well as a tragedy she experienced years ago. The car accident resulted in
Celebrating Two Years of Nakedness on the Internet
If this blog was a memoir in book form, the first page would be well worn; my first blog post was a piece I used to refer back
An Exclusive Interview with The Bloggess
Today is the big day. It's the day I have been waiting patiently for since The Bloggess wrote on her blog she had a book deal. Today The
What Would You Bring to a Deserted Island?
Dinnertime is now fun in our family. For many reasons it was a time of day I dreaded when I was married, which is why it was one of
5 Reasons to Never Get Married. Ever.
Ben from Dad of the Decade is a versatile, brilliant writer. He is currently writing the poignant story of his life with his daughter Emma. Ben has regularly
6 Things to Inspire Being Happy
There are times coming off the path on my journey has led to unexpected, positive events. Recently meandering on a different path has not been a good experience.
Answering the Question: Is He The One?
In the last four years of dating, two men have brought me flowers on the first date. Both turned out to have control issues and were, coincidentally, both complete
Getting Fit for Spring
Getting in shape. It's what many people start thinking about when the weather starts to warm up. For me, I have run regularly through the winter, but not
Studio30 Plus Has a New Home
The big day is here. Studio30 Plus has a new home. For my readers who are also writers, it's simply the place to be if you want to
5 Reasons to Get Married
I have been considering taking a big step: to marry again. I stand by all the reasons why I hesitate in remarrying, but there is an overriding need
The Fresh Diet: Perfect for a Busy Single Mom
Last week I wrote about the meal service from The Fresh Diet, but promised more details this week. The Fresh Diet is a daily meal service delivered to
Semi-Unplugged Sundays
I work daily. Yes, seven days a week. Before you start to feel sorry for me, let me stop you. I am not opening up today's post looking
At Home
This week's guest writer is Molly Campbell from Life with the Campbells: View from the Empty Nest. She is a breath of fresh air whenever I log into
The Boyfriend and Baseball
Baseball. To me, it's the greatest sport. In season I could write posts weekly at Naked Girl in a Dress, but I am confident, knowing my readers, I
The Fresh Diet: Gourmet Meals Delivered
As a single mom who dates and enjoys pursuing various interests, life can be hectic. Okay, so it is always hectic; can be was not accurate. Last week I wrote
It’s Never Too Late
Starting over. Learning something new. Choosing a different path to follow. These are all terrifying concepts. There is comfort in making excuses for being stuck in one place;
On Friendship, Housecleaning, and Baseball
It feels good to end the work week with half the moving boxes for the office unpacked and files starting to get organized in drawers, but
Failure Was My Greatest Success
Chrysta Bairre from Live Love Work is a talented motivational writer. I was ecstatic when she accepted my invitation to be a guest writer. Visit her to feel
A Bare-Knuckled Evaluation of Relationships
"How much can you know about yourself if you've never been in a fight?" ~Fight Club There is truth in this statement for life in general, but specifically
Celebrating Change
Change It used to be a dirty word. No one would dare utter the "c word" around me for fear it would send me in a tailspin. There
Who I Am
Reading great writing can do a lot of things. It can entertain us, make us laugh or cry, it can frustrate us, and on the rare occasion we
A New Adventure Begins
My longtime readers know about Studio30 Plus (S30P), a social media site for writers 30 and older, because I have mentioned it regularly. Several of my posts came
Love & Home Repairs: An Unexpected Combination
I often read or see in movies similar moments to what I experienced last weekend with The Boyfriend. Typically the couples are on a beach, a cruise ship,
The Hidden Shame of Dog Bullying
Amy from Kid-Free Living is the guest today. She is a funny, talented writer I love to visit regularly. While she is happily kid-free, today she 'outed' herself
How to Be Alone
Being alone. Lately I have been contemplating what being alone felt like post separation and how it has taken shape in my life today. This has been on
The Mommie Dearest in Me
I consider myself a fun mom. I am the first to wear my pj's inside out to encourage snow (what, you haven't heard about this trick?) the next
How Do You Know If Someone Is Really In Love with You?
I typically stalk a blogger for awhile, enjoying his/her writing, and then reach out to guest write here. Today's writer, My Honest Answer, was a completely different scenario.
Family Rules
We have a canvas wall hanging in our home with a listing of our family rules. It has become a go-to place in the house to remember what
Want Some Advice?
Earlier this year I announced Thursdays will be focused on sharing my favorite people from the online writing community; I will have guest writers with some
The 5 Most Difficult Posts to Publish
The post on Tuesday was one of the more difficult pieces for me to write and publish. I wrote and re-wrote it numerous times before hitting publish. Then,
The Battle for Dining Etiquette
It is unclear to me why I am trying to get an eight-year-old boy to put a cloth napkin in his lap each night, but I am. It
Coming Home
On a beautiful weekend day last fall, I found myself sitting in front of The Boyfriend for the first time. Within minutes of taking my seat, I was
A Beautiful Expression of Love
The first time I read this I was moved by the words, beauty, and truth. And then, to my surprise, I discovered the author at the end. I
The Power of Forgiveness
Forgiveness. It can be the most difficult thing to give another person, but it can be the most liberating. Forgiveness can bring about an inner peace for the
Finding True Love and Inner Peace
At some point in the separation and divorce process I started to search for answers. Not about the past, but about my future. I wanted to feel ready
Opposites Initially Attract But Compatibility Lasts
Opposites attract. Everyone has heard the saying, but is it true? Some experts say it isn't accurate if looking for a successful, long-term relationship.* I agree. There can
Dating Advice: Start with a List
Starting to date after a marriage has ended can be difficult. I often hear, "I never thought I would be doing this again." After spending most of my adult
Two Weeks on Love & Relationships
With Valentine's Day 15 days away, I have decided to have a Love & Relationship series for the next two weeks. At the beginning of February last year
On Winning 1 Million Dollars
On a run recently my mind was racing with ideas. The mind-racing thing actually happens whenever I am not sleeping. Just so you know. Oh, and sometimes my
Rediscovering Hope and Love
I meet so many people through my blog and social media. Many I consider friends without ever having met them. Alycia Neighbours is one of those people. She's
Peering In and Down from the Top
Peering down from the top of an indoor climbing wall on Sunday, my belayer continued to repeat she was prepared for me to descend. It was good to
How to Improve Your Relationship with Your Ex
Whenever I write about the good relationship I have with my ex, I receive praise from readers and my social media followers. People comment on my blog about
200 Later: Progress on the Journey
200 It's a big number. No one lives to be 200 and many blogs never live long enough to have the 200th post published. It's a really big
On Battling a Scary Monster. And Winning.
"Do one thing every day that scares you." ~Eleanor Roosevelt Stepping out of our comfort zone to do something that scares us can be overwhelming. It is safe
Like a Crapper Gargoyle
Peter DeWolf asked if he could visit Naked Girl in a Dress with a short fiction guest piece. I love his writing. How could I say no? Enjoy!
But I Love Him Anyway
The first guest writer of the New Year is Eric Storch from I Can't Brain; I Have the Dumb. Never heard of him? If not, it is because
60 Seconds of Happiness
Happiness is something I write about often. I have opined it is not something fleeting, but rather happiness is a state of mind. Does that mean I am
Embracing Dysfunction
Last night, with my bluetooth in my ear, I was upstairs multi-tasking. Talking to The Boyfriend as he drove home from a visit to see his children,
On How I Can Be Impossible (According to The Boyfriend)
Running on the National Mall one cold morning in December, The Boyfriend asked me what I wanted for Christmas. The conversation went something like this: The Boyfriend (TB):
Exciting Changes to Naked Girl in the New Year
This week's theme at Naked Girl in a Dress has been to focus on the start of the New Year. So far this week I have discussed my
My 3 Words for 2012
After posting on Monday the idea of creating a New Year's Resolutions list that is filled with things you are actually excited to do, I came across this
How to Make New Year’s Resolutions (and Be Happy)
There is an anti-New Year's Resolution revolution, which is understandable with an 80% failure rate for this tradition of creating long, impossible-to-achieve lists on January 1st. This masochistic
2011: A Year in Review
True fact: Bloggers, on some level, are all narcissists. Any blogger who cares to disagree with me, take heed: we think people are interested in what we have
4o Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 40
Pamela Redmond Satran wrote a list after her thirtieth birthday of what she wanted to tell younger women. It was a list of what Satran wished
An Act of Kindness at Christmas
With two days until Christmas most of us are busy wrapping gifts, baking, and preparing the house for company. The excitement and anticipation for the holiday isn't
Embrace the Life We Have Waiting for Us
If someone gave me the gift of seeing 12 months into the future last Christmas, I would not have believed what life would look like today. There had
A Weekend Full of Surprises. Except Love, Actually
It is hard enough dating as a single mom, but add in dating someone who travels extensively for work, it can be frustrating at times. When
After Seven Years I Finally Own This
I own this. It comes with me everywhere I go. With almost 200 posts written on this personal blog, it is a topic I have not yet shared.
Men’s Thoughts on Lizzi Miller and Glamour
How beauty is defined and what is considered sexy is subjective and a hotly-debated subject. The single most popular post on my blog is about my thoughts on
You Had Me at Abnormal
I experienced a you-had-me-at-hello moment with my boyfriend recently. The words uttered by my boyfriend would not be taken by many as romantic and loving; some could consider
New Synonym for Stubborn: Stupid
Life is full of surprises, with an adventure at every turn in the road. I have written about embracing this concept often. Being open to unexpected opportunities in
Advice to Writers from Ernest Hemingway: Write Drunk; Edit Sober
I have been stuck. For the first time since starting this blog, I have struggled with writing. While Ernest Hemingway probably took his own advice literally, it resonated
A Change in Season: Welcome Fall
The change in a season after many months of the same weather is something I look forward to with anticipation. The scenery and temperature changes. There is a
Perfecting Who We Are
Last week I wrote about a perceived lack of progress in an area of my life, but ended the week writing a more positive message about progress. Just
Me: A Work in Progress
Last Monday I was dealing with something difficult, which I wrote about on Tuesday. The post included the statement that I felt I had taken ten steps back
The Road to Happiness
Not long ago I had an email exchange with a reader about progress towards happiness and being brave. I pointed out the big step I made a year
My Five Best Decisions in Life
Schmutzie, blogger and web designer extraordinaire (she created this site's masthead), recently wrote a post with the five best decisions she has made in her life.
Living an Adventure-Filled Life
"Mom, we need 25 helium balloons, a video camera, and a homing device," said Monkey last night at dinner. The topic of discussion was planning an adventure for
How to Make Good Things Happen
Good thoughts. It is that simple. Or so my son told me recently. As we were driving, out of nowhere, my son announced: "Good thoughts make good things
Jumping Into Life
On a recent rainy, puddle-filled run I stretched out and leaped, not to avoid a huge puddle, but to land my foot in the middle of it. I
I am Not a Tree
"If you don't like where you are then change it. You are not a tree."* Change. It is such a difficult thing for most of us. Even if
A Recipe for Happiness
My sister was recently looking through our late grandmother's recipe box. In between the recipes for blueberry muffins and chocolate pound cake she came across a different
Lesson for Girls: Pretty and Smart are Not Mutually Exclusive
It's 2011. Women run for offices as high as President of the United States. Women run Fortune 500 companies. Women are Supreme Court Justices. It is sad, with
Where Do I Take Naked Girl This Fall?
One week after completing photography school, I have a clearly-defined understanding of my photography goals, which includes launching a food blog in a month. But what about Naked
What Compels You?
This week's guest writer is Lisa from Random Girl. It touched me to read her opening where she described me as an inspiration, cheerleader, and a friend. Lisa
A Realistic Look at Back to School Routines
This week's guest writer is Jimmy of Founding a Father. He is funny and creative. And, from reading what he writes, it is clear he is a
A Few of my Favorite Things: Torturing my Ex, Baseball, and More Baseball
It has been a busy week finishing up final projects for school, but that doesn't mean I have not been able to play and have some fun. Other
10 Tips to Help Men Improve Online Dating Profiles
In the year and a half I have written on this blog I have only written three posts in the category While Perched Upon My Soapbox.
Vinny C: Why He Blogs (and Draws Cool Stick Figures)
Today's guest writer is Vinny C. He is a fun co-worker at Sprocket Ink. We hit it off with a few funny exchanges when the staff was introduced
Inspiration for Living and Writing: The Poem Desiderata
The following poem is uplifting and encouraging for me personally, but it also inspires me as a writer. To have written something so beautiful that, 84 years later,
Getting Naked and Brave as a Photographer
Last week Kir guest wrote about what it means to her to be a Naked Girl in a Dress. This week, Alexandra of Good Day, Regular People, was
The Gift of Authenticity from Naked Writers
This week's guest writer is Alexandra from Good Day Regular People. Alexandra and I have been able to get to know each other through our blogs and tweeting.
Serendipitous Events, Fate and the Universe
Today I find myself writing because of the recent guest post on Naked Girl by Kir of The Kir Corner. She wrote here Wednesday about finding balance. Kir
I Am a Naked Girl in a Dress
This week's guest writer is Kir of The Kir Corner. She is enthusiastic, happy, and passionate about writing. I love to receive comments from her and
I Found a Scapegoat for the DC Heatwave
It's 200 degrees in Washington, D.C. right now. Okay, that is a slight exaggeration, but only slight. Seriously, it was probably 90 degrees last night when
The Anatomy of Pantlessness
This week's guest writer is David Kaa of The Manwife Chronicles. Why does he call himself the manwife? Because he has been unemployed and home taking care of
No Exquisite Sin Greater Than Central Air
This week's guest writer is Heather O'Brien Webb of The Destiny Manifest. Heather has a wonderful way with words. She shares simplicity and the joy of life through
Darren Rowse Told Me To Start Naked Girl in a Dress and Other Crazy Admissions
Naked Girl in a Dress exists because I want to write a cookbook. It seems like a crazy admission, but it is true. Not having much
How to Find a Life Partner in 3 Easy Steps
There are a plethora of dating sites, local singles clubs, matchmaker services, and self-help books on how to choose the right man (or woman). Sites claim to have
I Believe in Pink
Doubt It creeps in and takes hold. Doubt affects our ability to succeed. It can cloud our decisions. If left unchecked, doubt can lead to panic, anxiety, or
A New Dad Adventure
The first guest post of the summer is Brandon Duncan of Brandon the Duncan. Brandon's tagline is Daddydom in 4L (Living, Learning, Laughing & Loving it!). He's a
A Good Life
These first few weeks of summer have been filled with golf, dinners with friends, playing with the kids at the pool, watching baseball, running, swimming, movies, playing games,
Prepare for an Invasion This Summer
This week I have been busy preparing for an invasion. No, Judgement Day is not coming soon; it is still scheduled for October 21st. This has nothing to
What It Looks Like When Two Competitive People Date
A writing assignment was suggested to me yesterday. Actually, I was told I was to write a post containing information regarding a shuffleboard rematch that took place last
And I Shall Call Him Mr. Thunderbolt
Earlier this year I wrote about trying to find the right time to introduce someone I am dating to my blog. Conversely, when is the right time to
Business Tips From Anthony Weiner: How to Make $50,000 Blogging
Yesterday as I was perusing the internet looking for a story idea for Sprocket Ink today, I came across interesting information regarding Anthony Weiner (shocker, huh?). Apparently a
Summer Days
"Who wants to spend the first week of summer sitting inside (and spending large amounts of money) working on dismantling a marriage? My guess is no
New Beginnings
This week I have felt every emotion possible as a result of finalizing my divorce. It has been a hard week, but by last night I felt more
Endings Are New Beginnings
Just as I have each morning for the last 29 months, today I woke up married, but estranged from my husband. My divorce hearing was today so tomorrow
Just the Way I Am
When I reentered the dating scene last fall I started by creating a list of qualities I was looking for in a man. I also decided I would
Five Tips for Surviving a Breakup or Divorce
"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there
Hijacking Dates One Social Living Deal at a Time
"I am okay with you being our social director, but can I plan some dates too?" "But, we're backed up on Living Social deals!" In this brief exchange,
Embracing a New Dream at Any Age
"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning.The end is where we start from." ~T. S. Eliot It
Inspiration for People who are Separated or Divorced
It has been 29 months since separating from my husband and in 15 days our divorce will be final. Why we are divorcing is not something I will ever
How Great a Test Can a New Relationship Stand?
At some point in a new relationship something happens to challenge the foundation the couple is just starting to build. A few months into a relationship, it is
The Gift of Forgiveness
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. ~Bruce Lee One day last year my soon-to-be ex asked me out to lunch. What I
A Wishing Flower
My blog title is based upon something my daughter said at the age of three. I also write often about how much I love children. Simply stated, children
Gone, But Not Forgotten
A week ago today my grandmother died. Gram lived over 90 years. She buried 11 siblings, two husbands, a son, and a grandson. Gram was a strong, remarkable
One Year Later: Celebrating a Happy Life
A year ago today I composed and published my first blog post. It wasn't that long ago and yet it seems like a lifetime has passed in what
Posts with Personal Significance and Sharing a Soulful Singer
Monday is a big day for me; it's the one year anniversary of my first post. So, instead of focusing on writing a long piece today, I have
I Like How my Weekend Sounds
This week I wrote about photography and the peace that it brings me when I am behind the lens. In the past I have written about why I
Finding Peace through My Lens
Last week I wrote about the challenges to balance my life in the last month. I balanced working on catching up with focusing on fun activities with the
Friday: I Never Thought it Would Arrive This Week
This week I wrote about my thoughts on living a balanced life. I might be struggling, in a traditional sense to have balance, but I have had a
Finding Balance: Enjoying Life and Ignoring Dust Bunnies
Balance Sometimes I work incredibly hard to try to keep it, but fail miserably. This isn't a week that I have failed; it's only Wednesday so I can't
The Start of Something Good
This weekend (Friday through Sunday) includes an estimate for new carpeting, lunch with a girlfriend, a chiropractor's appointment, cycling, running, a fun date, lunch with a group of
The Angel I Aspired to Be
Who did you want to be, when playing pretend with your friends? Was it the Bionic Woman or the Six Million Dollar Man? How many desperately wanted to
Observations on a Life in Progress
Writing my 100th post on Naked Girl's 11 month anniversary last Friday sparked a few days of contemplation. Looking back at where I was in my
100 Posts and 11 Months Later
Writing my 100th post feels a bit like writing my first; there is tremendous pressure (albeit self-inflicted) to recognize this milestone properly. Add in that the 100th post
Serendipity or Zemblanity?
Serendipity -noun 1. an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident. 2. good fortune; luck In the summer of 2008 I woke up to a day filled with
And the Big Announcement is…
All bloggers, on some level, are narcissists. We think readers care about what we made for dinner, how potty training is coming along with Junior, and
I Love Mat Kearney, a Wrap-Up on My Writing This Week, and Other Random Information
Yesterday I wrote anything is possible in life and that, over two years after my separation, life doesn't look like I could have ever anticipated. And
Living My Childhood Dream
Childhood dreams. What first comes to mind when you read these two words? Do you think about your hope of becoming a vet or astronaut? Does an image
International Women’s Day: Who Inspires You?
Today marks the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day. It is a day to celebrate achievements of women around the world, and about recognizing women's rights and empowerment.
Monkey “Lights it Up” this Weekend with Mom
In the last two weeks I have been able to arrange special "mom dates" with each child. Recently Princess Daisy and I went out to lunch and to
Why I Blog
Why do we blog? Do we write to entertain our readers, chronicle our lives, inform the masses, connect with a community, make money, or get published? I believe there
Oscar Disasters: Amy Adams’ Necklace, Scarlett Johansson’s Dress, Reece Witherspoon’s Hair, and My Nationals Baseball Cap
Twitter was hijacked by Oscar-watching peeps last night. Everyone was snarking over dress, accessories, hair styles and more. Amy Adams, Scarlett Johansson, and Reece Witherspoon were
Ten Months of Blogging: Surprises Along the Way
Blogging anniversaries were a big event at Naked Girl in a Dress until last fall. I wrote each month to share my progress because, as I wrote in
Open Letter to Motorists From a Terrified Cyclist
Dear Motorist, Last week there was unseasonably warm weather for the DC area so I decided to go cycling. I was reminded from my first experience on the
Happiness: It’s a Choice We Can Each Make for Ourselves
Happiness: how do we feel it more often and hold onto it longer? I believe it isn't an elusive emotion, but something we attain by recognizing small, joyful
Making Room for Something to Grow and Bloom
This has been a week of contemplation. The main focus has been on identifying what I have been holding onto from past experiences and sorting through whether I
One Day Late, but I Can Add “Happy” to Valentine’s Day Today
Clearly I was not in the best mood yesterday. If I tainted anyone's Valentine's Day experience with my negative rant, I apologize. And while I do
Ben Harper Sings about Forever and the Naked Girl is Undecided
Writing, like relationships, can turn unexpectedly. I can have a plan and be hopeful of the results, but it could end in a way that I have not
Keeping Love Alive, One Small Gesture at a Time
Last week I announced I was broadening the focus of this blog to include love and relationships. And, leading up to Valentine's Day, I would post a two
Remarrying: Maybe or I Do?
Dating post-divorce involves a different set of questions than when you are single and have not been married. Even if compatibility and chemistry exists, there are
When is the Right Time to Tell the Guy you are Seeing About your Blog?
Question: When does receiving a Facebook friend request send you into a panic? Answer: When the guy who sent the request has been on one date with you
Love: As Easy as 1,2,3,4
I could not wait to write a wrap-up for the week this week because there are a lot of exciting things to share today. Many of
Love in the Right League
"You were way out of his league. You know that, don't you?" When a friend made this comment following a relationship breakup last fall, I didn't know what
A Broader View
This blog was conceived to record my journey to become a Naked Girl in a Dress and I hoped others would find something in my writing that resonated
Recipe for Life: Lazy Days with a Dash of Chaos
The kids have only been in school one day this week because of snow in the DC area. It has been a fun week of sledding,
How are You Traveling Through Life?
When I hear about someone behaving in a hostile manner, witness rage, or read anything written that is filled with hate, I pause. I pause and remember the
This Writer Revived
In mid-December I wrote a piece about learning to dance in the rain. Elizabeth Flora Ross, one of my readers, who is also in a virtual writing group
Embracing What is Unexpected in Life
There are twists and turns in life and while we can try to anticipate and plan, it is, to some extent, a futile attempt. If we don't know
A Year in Review: Top Ten Posts in 2010
When I wrote my first post in April 2010 I had an idea of what I wanted to accomplish, but I have been pleasantly surprised by
The Gift of Faith
I will be spending the day playing games, building Legos, cooking, watching the snow fall, playing with my new Kindle, and enjoying the company of friends and family
The Gift of Unconditional Love
There is no greater gift than to love and be loved unconditionally. Unconditionally is the most important word in the previous sentence. To me, conditional love is not
The Gift of Good Health
I feel so blessed to be in good health. I am able to be physically active, which allows me to fully appreciate all life has to offer. I
The Gift of Children
Yesterday I wrote about a special holiday series of posts leading up to Christmas. Regular readers are probably not surprised to read the first gift I am sharing
A Week of Gifts at Christmas
Last night the children and I drove home after a weekend away visiting old friends. We wound down country roads and through small towns the entire way home.
Baby, It’s Cold Outside
Longtime readers know that I am always looking for the positive in life. Gratitude is important to me. As someone who is active and enjoys running
Puppy-Sized Elephants and the Vlog Brothers. Just Like The Bloggess, But Without Profanity and Zombies.
Last week I asked readers to help me. My children want a dog and I was trying to convince them a llama would be a better
Dancing in the Rain
Last week a reader commented on a post I wrote five months ago. It was a piece about celebrating the progress I had made in the
Sundays in my City: Weekend Holiday Fun
Sundays in my City is a great opportunity to show images from my weekend. I love to participate. As Unknown Mami says, "I showed you mine, now show
I Ask: Is a Llama a Better Pet than a Dog?
My blogging buddy Alex at Late Enough has a page on her blog called I Ask. Instead of touting she has all the answers, Alex poses
Thanksgiving Blessings
A gaggle of children running in and out of the house; two refrigerators filled with food; 15 people coming for dinner; the house rearranged for a large sit-down;
Tom Sawyer Didn’t Get Dinner Delivered
Painting my fence has been a project that needed to be completed before winter. A month ago I bought paint and new brushes. A week later
I love the Yankees and Derek Jeter. I Love an Underdog More.
Oh, how I love an underdog. Which creates a big dilemma for me as I watch the American League Championship series. I love the Yankees, but I love
Gifts for Children that Last a Lifetime
We give our children many gifts in their lifetime, but what will we give them that will be with them forever? Definitely not the newest Wii game or
Sundays in My City: Washington, D.C and Annapolis
Unknown Mami encourages us to "travel the world together." Each Sunday she invites bloggers to show photos of their communities and link up to her blog. I have
Blissfully Writing for an Online Magazine
In addition to writing for my blog, I am also a contributing writer for Blissfully Domestic, an online magazine. Today my first article appears in this online publication.
Sundays in my City
Either fall allergies are getting the best of me or I have a cold. Either way, I am congested and cranky. This also means I didn't venture far
Sundays in My City: A Weekend Wrap-Up in Images
"I'll show you mine if you show me yours." This was the request of Unknown Mami, the host of Sundays in My City. Mami's link-up each Sunday is a
Banana pancakes, bubble toes, surfing, and a ukulele.
For the Song of the Week I have chosen a Jack Johnson song. The guy sings songs about banana pancakes and bubble toes. He also surfs and plays
Blogging Benefits: Readers and Online Community
Last week Naked Girl in a Dress hit the three month anniversary milestone. This may seem like a short amount of time, but it feels like a long
Finding My Way: Another Adventure Begins
For Song of the Week this week, I have chosen Coldplay's song Fix You. I chose this song because I spent a great deal of my adult life
Beating an Addiction (except at baseball games)
My name is Kelly and I am an addict. A coke addict. Not the snorting addiction, the sipping one. I am powerless over Diet Coke. And I need
The First Signs of Fall
The air is crisp in the morning and evening. Leaves are falling from the trees. Children are walking to school in light jackets. Honey Crisp apples
Back-to-School Resolutions
Waiting for a new year to begin to set goals is overrated. September is my favorite time of year to set resolutions. After playing with the
Opportunities at Every Turn in the Road
I had many goals when I started this blog. I wanted to make a little ad revenue to help pay for the blog expenses, have a body of
One Chance in Life. Get it Right.
This week I have spent more time listening than writing. People around me are struggling. Difficult ex-spouses, ailing parents, children struggling with school routines, parents struggling with school
Better Days
Better days. I am on the edge of a new life. Attraversiamo. I am ready to cross over. The universe is opening up to meet me. I am
Eat, Pray, Love and Celebrating a Beginning
Eat, Pray, Love is a memoir about a year in Elizabeth Gilbert's life following her divorce. It is a search to find herself so that she
Anniversary Milestones: A Life in Review
My first anniversary gift was an eight inch Henckel knife. I remember my soon-to-be ex laughing, telling me it wasn't a good idea to buy your
A Special 5-Part Series: Join me this week
Today I feel exactly as I did on December 11, 2009: day 364 of the separation. On that day I was filled with dread and anxiety as the
It’s a Beautiful Day
This morning I realized the two month anniversary of going public with Naked Girl in a Dress was this week. The one month anniversary was big.
5 Tips for Being Happy
Yesterday a few people in my life disappointed me. The more I thought about the situations that had occurred, the more I became upset. By dinnertime my frustration
25 Things I’ve Never Told You
Corbett Barr from Think Traffic and Free Pursuits recently wrote a post to allow his readers to really get to know him. Corbett wrote the piece to strengthen
I Forgot to Introduce Myself
Last Friday I assessed my progress (or lack thereof) to be a naked girl in a dress. Over the weekend I thought about what it meant
Hope Part 2: Reflections one week later
With this blog I have tried so hard to be happy. There has been a valiant attempt to focus on embracing the good that has come
A Blogger who Looks Great Naked
Grace Adams does look better naked. Maybe I have a soft spot for naked bloggers, but I have fallen in love with blogger Grace Adams of
Finding Courage from Within
Separation and divorce create many challenges. Financial, work/life balance, and solo parenting are a few examples. Aside from the obvious challenges, there are fears that develop
Hope That a True and Lasting Love Exists
Yesterday my mom asked me what the Song of the Week would be this week. For the first time since starting this Friday routine, I really didn't know
5 Tips for Supporting a Separated Friend
There's a plethora of information on the internet about surviving a divorce, but what about advice for individuals supporting their separated friends? For those interested in being supportive,
I am Nostradamus of the 21st Century (did you get the memo?)
In case you didn't get the memo, I am the Nostradamus of the 21st century. Not only did I predict the Battle of Armageddon is nearing, but I
Armageddon is Near (and it is not because of the TV Challenge)
Last winter we all laughed (ok, maybe only some of us laughed) about Snowmageddon. Everyone living in the DC area was hit with a huge snowstorm
5 Reasons I Love Being a Mom (hint: Rummikub)
Lately I have been thinking about my unconventional view on the benefits of being a mom. The items on my favorite-reasons-for-being-a-mom list shift in level of
Gratitude: Discovering the Small Joys in Life
Wednesday I wrote about feeling grateful in the face of a challenge. Readers left wonderful comments with examples of gratitude they felt as a result of a challenge.
Darren Rowse, awards, and a TV Challenge. Life is good (except for the TV Challenge)
There has been a lot going on in the blogging world this week. There was a huge anniversary party in my honor; this week is the equivalent of
Gratitude: A List of 10 Blessings in the Face of a Challenge
Gratitude: to possess this quality makes life richer. Yet there are times in life when a personal challenge makes feeling grateful difficult. When struggling, it is
Mel Gibson and Lindsey Lohan can’t overshadow this special day.
Mel Gibson and Lindsey Lohan discussions need to be put on hold today. It is a huge day for Naked Girl in a Dress and press
A Writing Challenge (because the TV Challenge wasn’t enough)
Darren Rowse from ProBlogger recently posted a writing challenge for bloggers. In case you live under a rock or are not a blogger, Darren is a
I want to fire my divorce attorney…and here’s the song of the week
Click HERE to learn more about Song of the Week. Getting a divorce sucks. I cannot think of a more eloquent way to state this fact. We have
Television Challenge: Week 2
The TV Challenge continues whether I like it or not. Click HERE to read about the start of the TV Challenge and HERE to find out
Celebrating Each Step
Last month I raced in the Annapolis Zooma Half Marathon. It was an incredibly hot and humid day. My training leading up to the race was
Television Challenge: Week 1
A week ago today I decided to accept the TV Challenge from Alex at Late Enough. I thought it would be easy because we don't watch
Life is short. Order the lobster roll.
At times I am plagued with indecision simply because I fear not making the right decision. When indecision strikes, time is consumed while I macerate over
Archery Lessons and a Test in Self-Control
Last Wednesday was Parent's Day at my son's all-boys camp. On Parent's Day we have the opportunity to attend camp with our kids for half the day.
Old Friends, Bob Marley, and a TV Challenge- Follow closely people. This could get confusing.
It's Friday so that means it is time for The Song of the Week. No, you have not missed anything; I just started this weekly tradition
Competitiveness breeds Stupidity
Alex at Late Enough threw down her gauntlet and I picked it up, accepting the challenge. Yes, I will be kicking her sorry ass in the
Nesting with an Empty Womb
I am being obsessive and maybe a little crazy. There is this uncontrollable urge in me to clean and purge. I started to worry, but then
Start of Summer Redux
Who wants to spend the first week of summer sitting inside (and spending large amounts of money) working on dismantling a marriage? My guess is no one. Last
Shiny Happy People
Do you ever feel dread at the beginning of the week, knowing what is ahead of you? That was my week this week. This was the
Free to Be You and Me
"Boys are more competitive than girls." "Boys play more sports than girls." These are comments made by my son (Monkey) last Friday while we were having
Girls’ Weekend Part 2: Racing and Friendship
If you didn't read my last post, click HERE to read Girls' Weekend Part 1. While it was unspoken between us, I think AC and I
Girls’ Weekend Part 1: Shopping, Food, and Friendship
AC is one of my closest friends and an incredible woman. We always have fun, laugh a lot, have similar interests, and genuinely enjoy each other's
My Fairy Godfather
There are times in life when we are struggling with a challenge that seems to be getting the best of us. This overwhelming difficulty feels like
You Need a Man
"Kell, you need a man." Me: "Really? I think I am doing great on my own." Well, not great, actually. OK is probably a better
I am Ready to Swim
Separation is like treading water; I am exhausted from the effort involved in keeping my head above water, yet I make no progress in moving in
Audrey Hepburn’s Beauty Tips
Recently I read something hateful. It was written with the intention to harm another individual and while I was not the person this anger was directed
Can you lick your own armpit?
Last week I participated in an arts and crafts event to sell my photography. As the date neared, I began to feel overwhelmed. This was only the second
The Joys of Motherhood
There are moments when I wonder WHY I brought these two monsters children into this world. We all have those moments and it is usually when my two
How to Prepare for a Race (or not)
If you read my last post and think the fact that two men in the last two years wrecked me emotionally the day before a race
Life is Unpredictable
Writing a first blog post (to me, at least) must be like writing a first sentence in a novel. It is overwhelming to create that starting point, with