A New Dad Adventure

July 6, 2011

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The first guest post of the summer is Brandon Duncan of Brandon the Duncan. Brandon’s tagline is Daddydom in 4L (Living, Learning, Laughing & Loving it!). He’s a great writer and a positive person. He provides inspiration for parenting on his great site. Read what he shared here today and then go read more from Brandon on his site.


Ahhh… Don’t you love an opportunity to invade someone else’s space and be given free reign? And there’s so much to play with here—I don’t know what I want to mess with first!

I’m kidding, obviously.

I met the resident Naked Girl a few months ago—of course her name sparked my curiosity… In my defense, I may have met her based on a few image-inducing words, but I stayed to get to know her based on her impressive ability to craft them. I am truly honored to be asked to guest here.

The N.G. told me a few months ago that she liked my perspective on being a dad, so, not having any guidelines for this post, I decided to tell you a story from my early, inexperienced ‘daddydom’.
I was twenty-three (which basically meant I was still immature). My twin sons were three. We needed to get out of the house, and I wanted to do something cool with them. I called up a buddy and asked if he wanted to tag along for an afternoon of… kiteflying.

Harmless enough, right?

Never mind how awkward the sight would be. I stand an even six feet and weighed in at 220 lbs at the time. My buddy had me by three inches and nearly a hundred lbs. Did I mention that we were going to a busy public park…in a college town? Not the sort of thing you see every day.

After nearly killing ourselves deftly placing the car seats in the back of a late nineties model Thunderbird and getting the tikes buckled in, we were off. Of course, in the six hours short time it took to get them in the car, they, as toddlers do, ended up having to pee.


Rather than go through the effort of extracting them, we decided to just hurry up and get to the park. It didn’t take long to get there, but the bladder sizes of three year olds who resist potty training with every inch of their souls is nothing to test. We jumped out of the car as soon as he threw it into park and were off.



I’m happy to report that the cedar trees in the park got a good watering that day. I’m a good citizen—I try to do my part for the environment. (The boys got a good giggle out of the new experience also.)

After the potty emergency was remedied, we headed for the car to retrieve our kites. After I grabbed them, he started to slam the trunk lid.
Ever see one of those movies where the character’s voice goes all deep and the air turns to molasses, making quick movement impossible? It happens, people.

Resting on the side of the trunk opening was a sweet, unblemished, three year old little paw. I exclaimed a deep, long drawn “nnNNNNNOOOOOOO…” and did my best to reach, slap, grab, push save the child from impending doom… to no avail. After witnessing his tender little fingertips disappear into the gap between the lid and side of the trunk opening, the real comedy started—in fast forward.

I was franticly screaming for him to pop the trunk lid, his remote didn’t work, and my son was getting scared because we were freaking out. My friend then decides to grab his little wrist and pull. Yes, I said pull… hard. I again lost it and screamed the question—“What the *insert expletive* are you DOING? POP THE *insert alternate expletive* TRUNK!” He fumbled with the keys in desperation.


I immediately grab my son’s hand and inspect his fingers. Thankfully, only one looked a little out of whack. Unfortunately, it also started to bleed, so I couldn’t tell how much real damage was done. My friend grabs a tee shirt (white, of course) from the back seat and tried to wrap up my little one’s hand. Yeah. Little hand, big tee… we rushed to the hospital, toddler bleeding down my back, on his seat—pretty much everywhere. Of course, both of us felt terrible. We just wanted to fly a stupid kite!

As it turned out, he was fine. Nothing broken, no stitches needed, just a bandage for a day or two.

We never did fly those kites. Too risky…

So tell me.

Anybody else make any big time new parent mistakes?

How did everything turn out?

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{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

Brandon July 6, 2011 at 10:25 am

Thanks again, N.G. for letting me invade your space! This story is even funnier reading it elsewhere, lol!

Hopefully I don’t run off any readers! ;)
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 6, 2011 at 10:39 am

Thank YOU for writing on my site! I am sure you will not drive readers away. I hope you find more readers on your site from writing here today.

You are the best!


Oilfield Trash July 6, 2011 at 11:09 am

Good guest post Brandon!!!
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 6, 2011 at 12:11 pm

Didn’t he do a great job? Thanks Justin!


Brandon July 6, 2011 at 1:20 pm

Thanks! I didn’t get much guidance on this, so I went with embarrassing myself and owning up to some early fatherhood mistakes. Looks like it turned out ok! ;)
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NotJustAnotherJennifer July 6, 2011 at 11:23 am

Aw, poor little guy! I closed the door on my 3YOs hand the other day. She was holding on to the frame, and I didn’t see that her fingers were by the hinge. Thankfully when there was resistance, I didn’t force the door, I realized what I had done. Poor baby girl!
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 6, 2011 at 12:10 pm

Ouch! I have done it too. It is a terrible feeling as a parent, seeing their hand in the door. Princess Daisy was little and thankfully no damage was done.


Brandon July 6, 2011 at 1:23 pm

OUCH! That does suck. The good thing is they are still pretty flexible and bendy when they’re little, so they usually end up without any permanent damage. My daughter broke the growth plate in her elbow several years back and she has no issues either. (I had nothing to do with that one, though. LOL!)
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jen July 6, 2011 at 1:50 pm

OH boy I could give you a list!
Shampoo in the eye’s when they were young.

I’m surprised mine have finger tips from getting their nails clipped when they were younger; I finally started biting their nails to relieve the trauma- both theirs and mine.

And what parent hasn’t snapped their kid into the car seat and then realized it wasn’t buckled into the car? I’m afraid this parent is guilty of all those rookie mistakes.

Great post Brandon, enjoy your site.

Great choice as guest Naked Girl.
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Brandon July 6, 2011 at 3:24 pm

Yep, done the shampoo and car seat thing too. Fingernails? Not a snowball’s chance in hell. I still won’t cut my kids’ nails. Never trusted myself enough to attempt that one.

Thank you for the compliments!
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Leigh Ann July 6, 2011 at 2:19 pm

This is so funny, but not! It just reads like a comedy or errors! And how did I miss that you had twins? Mine are three now and I can tell you that kite flying would likely end in disaster on our end too. But I’m happily putting off potty training as long as I can stand it.

Glad he was ok. I left my little one on my bed when I ran to check on one of here sisters crying at nap time and ended up doing an emergency diaper change. She rolled right off with a resounding thud. And then the crying. I should have known better, as I was playing with her and watching her roll al over the place before I left the room. I just spaced on it when I went to deal with her sister.


Brandon July 6, 2011 at 3:27 pm

Yeah, the twins are a bit of a sore spot. I will be writing about them more, but I’ve missed a lot of time with them, what with moving around so much.

I don’t think I ever had a kid roll off the bed, but fortunately they bounce, so I’m sure she won’t have any long term issues! ;)

Thanks for stopping in!
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 7, 2011 at 8:53 pm

I didn’t have this problem because my changing table was made for people like me…it had a seatbelt!


Desperate Housemommy July 6, 2011 at 2:20 pm

Yay! Brandon and Naked Girl together in one place! Sounds scandalous. :)

Hmmm…parenting mistake? Sorry…never made one. Snort.
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Brandon July 6, 2011 at 3:28 pm

Ah, yes, you caught us! Very scandalous over here, lol!

You crack me up. Thanks for stopping in, you!
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 7, 2011 at 8:51 pm

If you haven’t made any parenting mistake yet, maybe you would like to take my pubescent daughter for the summer. Great training!


Kir July 7, 2011 at 5:16 pm

Hi Brandon I have twin sons that are 3 right now ..and I swear reading this was like living my life every fracking day lately LOL….awesome story..and I am so glad he was ok.

This age..3…is seriously gonna kill me. *sigh*
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Brandon July 7, 2011 at 6:41 pm

I am so glad I am past the terrible twos, threes, fours… (see a pattern? lol!)

Twins are awesome when things are going well. Not so much when they aren’t. I have SEVERAL other stories I could tell you, trust me. :)
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Naked Girl in a Dress July 7, 2011 at 8:49 pm


You are that much more awesome in my book now that I know you have twin 3-year-olds!


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