Divorce

Living with No Regrets

October 19, 2012

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“What are your dreams?” Someone asked me that soon after I separated from my ex. The question stumped me. I didn’t have an answer, and I was embarrassed I could not conjure up one thing I dreamed to do in my lifetime. To fill the awkward silence, I started rattling off things I wanted for […]

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After four years as a single mom, I still have not realized the impossibility of also being a superhero. Instead of accepting this reality, my inner voice regularly makes declarations like this: “One day in the future, this is all going to come together, and be easy.” It would be better to stop telling myself […]

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Never one to focus on having regrets in life doesn’t mean I don’t wistfully think it would be nice for a do-over at times. In my marriage the constant theme for a do-over was simply laughter; I would have loved to have married someone who made me laugh, a deep, soul-satisfying belly laugh, daily. When […]

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Standing at the edge of the lake early Sunday morning before starting the swim for Iron Girl Rocky Gap triathlon, many emotions were brewing. I thought about what was happening in my life the last time I competed in a triathlon, which was 15 long months ago. So much had changed. I was now divorced, […]

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Single Me vs. Married Me

September 7, 2012

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Married Me would rise most weekday mornings at 5:30 to run at least six miles. One weekend morning each week she would typically run 10. Her cycling would never be shorter than a 20-mile ride. Swimming in the summer was a mile a day, five days a week. Winter months would involve 1.5 mile swims […]

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My Timeline in Review

August 10, 2012

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Two years ago I was in the exact location I am now: a small lakeside community in the mountains with the same friend and our children. This vacation, like all life experiences, is a notch on my timeline. With all the parallels this vacation to the one in 2010, I keep looking back to the similar […]

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