For Song of the Week this week, I have chosen Coldplay’s song Fix You.
I chose this song because I spent a great deal of my adult life trying to fix someone who was broken. I did this without realizing I had become sick from this, that I was miserable, that all my relationships suffered from this, and that my futile attempts had, in effect, made me broken too. I have learned a lot from that experience and am moving forward knowing I won’t try to fix someone again. I tend to get lost and damaged in the process. And, most important, people who don’t want to be fixed, can’t be fixed. And if they want to be fixed, you simply need to support their own efforts.
Two years later, I feel like life has been breathed into me. I have been able to laugh, love, improve my relationships, and find what makes me happy. On this journey to rediscover me, I am happier and healthier.
This blog exists because I decided to finally pursue a longtime love of writing. I am writing for other online publications because I took a risk and applied. I am happy to call myself a writer now.
I am trying and succeeding.
I know I would never start a blog or begin writing professionally if I was still completely focused on fixing another human being. By finally realizing I had failed at fixing another (I write fail, but accept it was not for me to do), I gave myself the room to live.
I was stuck in reverse.
The latest accomplishment in my life is that in three days I will be entering a professional photography program. Now that this new adventure is beginning, I am excited and terrified at the same time. I am going to pursue another dream. While I am still afraid of failure, there is something deep inside me pushing me forward. There is a little voice telling me this is right.
There’s a light guiding me home.
Happy Friday Everyone!
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15 responses to “Finding My Way: Another Adventure Begins”
Learning that it’s not my responsibility to fix other people’s problems was a giant step for me. That it’s not only not my job, but that it inhibits their growth. It’s their job. So important to know.
Have fun on your new adventure. Believing in yourself is the hardest part. You can do it.
Great song.
Robin,
I just love all your comments, so keep coming back!
Thank you for always being so encouraging.
I absolutely adore this song. I think the first time I heard it and really listened to the words I almost cried. It’s just incredibly moving and can take you back to anytime where you felt that you needed fixing, or you were trying to fix someone else and couldn’t.
As far as being afraid, that’s natural, but you won’t reach that dream if you don’t pursue it, so make a go of it and smash that “afraid” feeling. And congrats on the Featured Blogger over at Studio 30+. See, you’re kicking this blogging thing’s ass, you can do it in your photography as well :)
Michele~ thanks for the encouraging words. I do need to break through the fear and just go for it.
I am headed to Studio30 Plus right now. I had no idea I was featured! I was there this morning so it must have just gone up midday.
Great choice – great song – LOVE that song, so inspirational!
Found you thru Studio 30 Plus, am following you now! Love it here!
Brahm~
Thanks for following me! I am going to check out your blog right now…
I’m so excited for you – a new adventure indeed. I have no doubt that you will rock photography as well as you do writing.
Go get ’em, kid!
Thanks Ash! I am so excited to begin.
I think that’s one of life’s hard lessons… you can never fix anyone else and you can’t even try unless they decide they need to be “fixed”.
I love how you tied all this into the song. I love music and do a featured song on Tuesdays. They are some of my favorite posts.
Stopping by from SITS.
Thanks for stopping by!
Yay for you! I cannot WAIT to hear about the program!! :)
Alana~
I am sure I will be blogging all about it! I actually think I will be introducing a new series on Sundays that will be photographs taken from the week. There’s a link-up each weekend with another blogger that is for photography. So hopefully you will see more of my images as well.
I felt like you were writing from my mind or soul in this post. You said what I’ve been feeling so eloquently and beautifully.
I am so happy you connected with my thoughts shared in this post.
Grace is standing and applauding.